If you’re a college student, you may have seen “crushes” pages like this one at the University of Wyoming called “UW Crushes”. People anonymously submit their “crushes” like “girl in geometry, I wish I could talk to you…” or “Dude next to me on the treadmill, I adore you…” — or at least that’s how it’s supposed to work.
Well, at the University of Wyoming page (unaffiliated with the school, as far as anyone can tell), the admins have a different approach. Even if someone is named, they post it. Even if it’s disgusting, offensive, and vaguely threatening, they post it. Like the message posted about me above.
The admins claim they have a policy that if someone named wants it taken down, they will remove the post. However, the person named is not tagged, and will not know about the post until they are either notified by someone following the page, or are tagged in the comments. The page admins make no effort to notify anyone, and there are no disclaimers stating they do not endorse any of the comments posted.
I didn’t receive word of this post until late this afternoon, at least an hour or so after it was published. My friends began messaging me about it. The admins have defended content like this before, but they’re silent right now.
I’m encouraging every single person that follows me, all 55,991 of you, to let them know this kind of misogyny is not okay. Comment on the status, since the page IS public. Comment on the page if they remove this post. Imagine if I had not been told about this — or if something like this is posted about another student, and lo and behold, they become a victim of sexual violence. It’s likely people like this are all talk and no action. But threats like this are 100% unacceptable. Remember, it took a creeper to think this up and type it — but it took an admin to approve and post it.
It’s time to fight back against this kind of harassment. Everyone has the right to feel safe on their campuses. It’s one thing to say that the girl next to you in the library has a beautiful smile. It’s another to say you’re going to “hatefuck” someone to make them “a good Republican bitch.”
I am asking everyone to push back, not with threats, but with their beliefs that no one deserves this kind of thing posted about them publicly. This IS an example of rape culture. So let them know (and others if there’s a page like this at your university.) Be civil, but be firm.
And to think I go to this school. People worry me a lot.